ARE LOVE ISSUES WEIGHING YOU DOWN?
"Once you meet yourself and truly love yourself, then you attract that" - a quote reported as said by actress JENNIFER ANISTON, star of notable movies He’s Not That Into You, The Breakup with Vince Vaughn, Friends with Money, The Good Girl, and Horrible Bosses. In her personal life, she has had her fair share of public breakups, and each time she has kept her comedic smarts intact. We follow in her footsteps ...
Only within the last decade has Broken Heart Syndrome been recognized as a medical diagnosis. Women in their 20s up into their 80s have fallen prey, and the condition can strike even if you are healthy. Experts claim emotional stress activates the same areas of the brain as physical pain with an overwhelm that necessitates a different type of treatment.
As described on Web MD, heartbreak syndrome can be triggered by stressful events that can stem anywhere from a car breaking down to a bankruptcy filed. As we know, romantic shakeups cause love issues, family dysfunction causes life issues; and employment conflicts cause work issues. Those work issues can then cause romantic shakeups, which in turn can cause family dysfunction and a breakup cycle begins.
To date, products and services for breakup recovery have only been in the romantic arena. However, in connectedness, we might get to the heart of the matter. Relationship therapists, family experts, and business coaches populate the self-help industry in their respective categories but provide little holistically to those who break up often in love, life, and at work.
An integrated approach has not been found practiced until now.
As the creator of THE BREAK-UP BIZ™, I, too, have scratched the itchiness a breakup brings. Until now, my life has been a series of Jennifer Aniston movies. On my journey traveling out from under where shedding emotional weight was hard to do, I developed a new type of ‘dietary’ tale. Like Aniston, I’d had my fair share of breakups but if I had to go through one again, the outcome, I found, could be more slimming.
Within the first month of every breakup, I started to notice that I instantly lost ten pounds without thought or effort as if shedding the experience was meant. Not many diet programs like Weight Watchers nor Nutrisystem can deliver such an instant rate of return. I had not invested in diets before but, the rollercoaster of weight fluctuation led me to a phenomenon noted by experts as a 'breakup diet,' where one can experience drastic changes in appetite when going through the throes of a breakup.
Under duress, our bodies create additional adrenaline, resulting in elevated cortisol levels that lead to depression of immune responses, increased fat accumulation, and even loss of cognitive function. The list goes on … so much so I turned the breakup malady into a breakup remedy where I now own BREAK-UP DIETS® as a new way to shed emotional weight so breaking up doesn't have to weigh you down.
Our 'dietary' tales are sometimes quirky and silly, sometimes serious and straight to the heart, sometimes for weightloss and sometimes not as you will find revealed throughout THE BREAK-UP BIZ™ experience. But, below is the 10-day cleanse that started them all ...
Day 1 - Java LoverDAY 1: Think of coffee as your new comfort food! Soon after breaking up with my boyfriend of one year, coffee became my best friend. It gave me something to look forward to in the mornings when I didn’t have him to wake up to. This was when my love affair with Java began and my memories of him started to fade.
Day 2 - Sleep DeprivationDAY 2: The time I spent with Java kept me up late and sleep deprived, which, to my surprise, significantly numbed the pain, making it easier to get through my work day without tears. It was a vicious cycle, but truth be told, being comatose took the edge off the pain. I was so angry about the breakup that I wouldn’t have been able to sleep anyway.
Day 3 - Psychic InterventionDAY 3: Forget about taking years to delve into childhood issues as to why this relationship didn’t work! A good psychic friend provided me with the optimism that another man was just around the corner. Whatever it takes to get through those emotional first few days and months is worth every penny whether you believe in the spiritual world or not.
Day 4 - Mental NotesDAY 4: Determination to move on to a brighter future was my driving force, and every time I went back down memory lane, I asked friends to leave messages on my phone with nasty reminders of why my life is now much better with him not in it. Thanks to good friends, I never had a desire to speak with him again.
Day 5 - Yesterday's NewsDAY 5: Cutting off communication I knew from various advice books was a necessary evil to speed up the healing process. I viewed the situation as if I was quitting cigarettes or, heaven help me, my beloved Java. I needed to go cold turkey, and I knew that if I didn’t do these things, I would continue to be further and further away from meeting a more suitable man.
Day 5 - Coffee StatementsDAY 6: I didn’t want any reminders of what was or what could have been, nor anything that might motivate me to want him back, so that meant creating new decor out of items that reminded me of us – the cute photos from our first vacation together, the sexy panties with his name on it that I had engraved for Valentine’s Day, with of course, the jewelry he had given me all now out of fashion. The ritual of throwing things away helped me to regain my home as mine.
Day 6 - Misery Loves CompanyDAY 7: Reminding myself each day that I’d feel a bit better today than yesterday, and tomorrow even more so, was a trick I knew would eventually prove fruitful. I had seen it work for a friend of mine, so I knew this mantra had potential to help me too. Once I surrendered to this notion, the crying lessened and my alone time started to become more about me than what had been when I was a “we.”
Day 8 - Manicures Will DoDAY 8: When the weak moments overwhelmed me, I invested in none other than a manicure with gels to boot. My new nails gave me a renewed sense of femininity and an affordable new hobby. Whomever said diamonds were a girl’s best friend had never been to a spa! When funds were low, a warm bubbly bath or a long walk around the block also did the trick. I just needed pampering and self-care.
Day 9 - Just Me!DAY 9: Instead of dwelling on what I had lost, I diverted my energies to becoming highly productive in other areas in my life. I wrote my first magazine article, created my first website, and developed new business opportunities. The more I did things to better myself, the more I got used to being with just me again. And I liked hanging out with me! My friends did too!
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Start by sporting a smile!
Studies have shown that when asked as most attractive, both men and women select pictures of smiling people. So, despite love gone awry, don't stop smiling. A smile is a universal signal for friendliness, as well as an instant beauty boost at little to no cost but complimentary. Click on BOX for details and tap the arrow button for MORE!
More reasons to keep smiling: 1) makes you adorable 2) Is contagious 3) Makes you feel good 4) Relaxes you 5) Keeps you positive 6) Is a natural drug 7) Makes you confident and 8) Makes you approachable.
Don't know how to smile? Our resident flirting expert, FRAN GREENE, says, "You do not have to start a conversation; just smile," says FRAN, who delivers more insight in her starter sessions on how to flirt as if you are the most attractive person in the room.
She recommends looking at a person for approximately 2-4 seconds, smile, look away, and then continue on your way and best ways to improve your smiling game is while walking your dog, waiting for a bus, standing in line at the supermarket (or anywhere, for that matter), filling your car’s tank with gas, dining in a restaurant, walking around the office or sitting in class as steps you can take at little to no cost but complimentary.
Fran is a former relationship advisor at the world's most popular dating site Match.com. Her expertise is often called upon by SELF and COSMO, which featured FRAN’s 6 Surprising Ways to Flirt, and BravoTV.com regularly seeks out Fran’s advice for commentary on Valentine’s day breakups, dating younger, as well as airport romances. You should, too. Fran is now on speed dial at THE BREAK-UP BIZ™.